When You Don’t Know WhyPosted in Articles
Dr. Dan Hayden •
We all suffer occasionally, but for some it is a way of life. For them, pain and foreboding anticipation are a part of the daily routine—dark companions that are with them to the end. Grappling with the tough questions that seem to have no answers, they wrestle with the lurking shadows of anxiety and doubt. Prayer for courage and the strength to endure fill their minds and occupy their time. Eventually they long for the Lord to take them home and wonder why He tarries so long. It’s hard to be terminally ill.
Bill is my friend. Last fall he was diagnosed with a massive malignant brain tumor. Since it was inoperable, the only recourse was radiation therapy. He had already lost the use of his left side, but the treatment left him even weaker. Then after months of radiation the doctors determined that it was having no effect. Chemotherapy was another possibility, but the chances of it working were just as doubtful. Furthermore, the quality of life would be further diminished due to the dramatic side effects of the medication. So Bill made a tough decision. He would forgo the treatment and commit his destiny to the loving providence of God. Bill is dying. God is preparing him for eternity.
Everyone who visits Bill is encouraged by his unwavering faith in the goodness of God and his abiding concern for the welfare of others. Visitors go to be a blessing, and leave being blessed. Bill is at peace with the thought of dying because he knows that Christ is his Savior and the grave will have no sting. Questions like “Why me?” or “Where’s God?” are not his concern. He knows that God is loving and good despite the circumstances, and he has come to terms with the fact that sometimes there are no human answers to “why?”. With Bill there is no complaining and no self-pity, but he does long for it all to be over. He wants to go home.
Bill is isolated in the confines of his own experience, but he is not alone. There are thousands of others like Bill, who suffer without cause. Sometimes it is a terminal illness, but there are scores of other circumstances that are just as tough—a lifelong paralysis or handicap, a congenital defect or accident of life that requires multiple surgeries and long rehabilitation, enduring situations of abuse or neglect, natural catastrophes and the devastation of war— the list is seemingly endless. In some measure, suffering is a part of life. And when we ask the question, “Why?” or “Why me?” the sound of our voice echoes back like words spoken in a hollow chamber. We hear only the repetition of the question— not the answer.
What shall we say to these things? Are there no answers? Have we been set adrift in a meaningless universe or is there a divine wisdom that can give us a perspective on the ultimate questions? The Book of Job is God’s answer to this haunting dilemma.
An Answer With No Meaning
The suffering of Job was a suffering without cause. Some have suggested a fault in his character—that he worried over the welfare of his children and by this opened the door to calamity. But the Book itself dispels that notion as a fruitless answer to Job’s dilemma. This was the combined voice of his three friends, but their counsel was rejected as nonsense.
Job’s problems were caused by the malevolent designs of Satan upon a man who was undeserving of such treatment. The real problem for us however, is the permission of God that unleashed Satan’s fury. It is obvious that God is in control of the situation, though Satan is the perpetrator of the Evil. But why would God allow Satan to do that ? How do we understand God’s part in Job’s suffering?
Job does not know what we know, but our question is the same as his—why? Several answers are probed by the surrounding characters of his life, but all of them prove unsatisfactory. Then God speaks and we are taken by surprise. But we are ahead of ourselves. Let’s watch the story unfold as we eliminate the alternatives.
1. ANGER AT THE PROBLEM
The first attempt in the Book of Job to address the question of suffering is truly an answer with no meaning. It is offered by Job’s wife, and while we might sympathize with her reaction to the tragic incidents of her life (after all, she lost her children and home also), her answer is not a solution. She simply said to her husband, “Do you still hold fast your integrity? Curse God and die!” (2:9).
Now I don’t know about you, but I feel sorry for Mrs. Job. She is bitter and angry and disillusioned with God. The suffering has been incredible and her husband is sick and troubled. We are often critical of her, but in spite of her wrong response, I can understand her feelings and sense of disappointment. Who of us has not wrestled with anger and struck out at the circumstances of life? The temptation to be angry with God or to doubt His goodness can be oppressive. Such a response is natural to our humanness.
But anger at the problem does not help, nor is it a wise answer to the question of suffering. One of the things we learn in the Book of Job is that, although God is in ultimate control, He is not the author of Job’s suffering. Satan is. Therefore, anger at God is misdirected anger. Self-pity and a caustic spirit are simply reactions to bitterness—they provide no answer to the dilemma. Anger may be a natural response, but it is not a satisfying solution.
Possibilities Without Satisfaction
There are two answers offered by Job’s counselors that are sometimes true—but not in the case of Job. The Book probes these answers as valid explanations of the problem of suffering and gives considerable attention to the detailing of each argument. Yet as an ultimate solution to Job’s suffering, they each fall short. There is an aspect of suffering that does not fit the standard answers and that is what the Book of Job is all about.
2. ACCEPTANCE OF THE PUNISHMENT
Job’s three friends sat with him a whole week without uttering a word as a means of entering into the depth of his hurt. There was wisdom in that. They sought to understand before they sought to be understood. Sometimes comfort is just being there, showing that you care.
Then Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite, and Zophar the Naamathite began to offer their counsel. They each spoke multiple times and with much verbiage sought to finetune their arguments. Three voices in concert expressing their final solution as three variations on a theme—suffering is always the direct outcome of sin, and is God’s judgment on it. In the words of Eliphaz, the oldest and wisest of the group— “Remember now, who ever perished being innocent? Or where were the upright destroyed?” (4:7).
They were right, to a point. There is a great deal of suffering in our lives that can be traced to unwise decisions and selfish self-serving behavior. We cause our own problems and suffering is simply the consequence of our sin. King David suffered deeply as a result of his indulgent adultery and homicidal cover-up. The child died, his family was in turmoil and, most tragically, his fellowship with God was broken. It was all very sad and yet it was all very understandable. The suffering was definitely a consequence of sin.
This is not always true, however. Not all suffering can be traced to a specific sin. It is true of course, that all suffering is a result of the general principle of sin in the universe, but this is not always true in specific situations. When the disciples questioned Jesus concerning the man who was blind from birth and said, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he should be born blind?” Jesus responded by saying, “It was neither that this man sinned, nor his parents; but…that the works of God might be displayed in him” (John 9:2-3). The man was suffering with blindness, but not because of any specific sin. This was the situation with Job. The solution offered by his three friends, although sometimes true, was not true in his case.
So how do we determine if God’s judgment upon sin is a legitimate explanation for the suffering in our lives? Well, the answer is simple. If we are being disciplined for sin, we will know it. The connection will be obvious. I never punished my children without making sure that they knew the exact reason for the punishment. God is no different. Our response here is simply to confess our sin and go on. Sometimes the consequences of sin are temporary and sometimes they are permanent (like contracting AIDS from indulging in illicit sex). We simply bear the consequence and seek to be obedient with the rest of our lives.
3. AWARENESS OF THE PURPOSE
Elihu the Buzite was the youngest and most inexperienced of Job’s counselors. He waited until the trio of voices were finished and then offered his analysis of the situation (chapters 32-37). Since the idea of punishment for sin did not seem to fit Job’s situation, the only other alternative as far as he was concerned was that God must be teaching Job something. According to Elihu, suffering is God’s means of getting our attention so that we will learn an important lesson. He says, “Behold, God is exalted in His power; Who is a teacher like Him?” (36:22).
Again there is truth in this, but it is not the whole truth. God does use the adversities of life to make us wiser and more mature. That is the point James is making when he says,
Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing (James 1:2-4).
Personal suffering can be a time for reflection in order to reevaluate priorities, to make new insights into life, and to resolve needed changes in perspective. Sometimes the lessons are specific and at other times more general. If you get burned you say, “Wow, I’ll never do that again.” Or, over a period of time various problems remind you of the frailty of life and the need for a more consistent humility. These are valuable lessons, and the occasions of suffering that God uses to instruct us are messengers of His mercy and grace.
Yet for Job this was not the full picture either. You see, if he was being taught something by God, it should have been clear what it was he was supposed to learn. God is not playing games with suffering and He is not vague in His instruction. So Job remained puzzled. He still didn’t get it. In fact God Himself came to Job’s defense when He said concerning Elihu, “Who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge?” (38:2). Awareness of the purpose is not always the answer.
When God Speaks
Throughout the Book of Job, God is silent. Eliphaz, Bildad, Zophar, and Elihu have offered their solutions, but Job remains perplexed. None of the answers seem to fit his situation. He still doesn’t know why he is suffering and yet he is still asking the question “Why?”.
Perhaps this is your dilemma. Your suffering persists but you can see no clear purpose in it. You pray for wisdom but the heavens seem impenetrable as your prayers bounce off the clouds and return just as you prayed them. “Why am I suffering?” turns to “Why should I pray?” because apparently there are no answers. Yet as with Job, God breaks the silence and offers one more solution to the question of suffering. It takes you by surprise with an answer so simple that you wonder why it never crossed your mind.
4. APPRECIATION FOR PROVIDENCE
A rehearsal of the wonders of creation was not exactly what Job had in mind. At first it seemed irrelevant to the subject of suffering and the thoughts that haunted his mind. What was the connection and where was the wisdom? But the opening questions began to penetrate Job’s mind and an obvious truth began to dawn upon his soul. God simply said,
Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth? Tell Me, if you have understanding, Who set its measurements, since you know? Or who stretched the line on it? On what were its bases sunk? Or who laid its cornerstone? (38:4-6).
In the presence of God, Job is getting smaller and smaller as God is getting bigger and bigger. Job knows the answer to none of these questions, but it is obvious that God does. The Creator of the universe with all of its variations and specialties is the God of his life, and Job is simply dwarfed into insignificance. In the end, Job discovers ultimate wisdom as he says,
“I have heard of Thee by the hearing of the ear; But now my eye sees Thee; Therefore, I retract, And I repent in dust and ashes” (42:5-6).
Human pragmatism had given way to an appreciation for Divine providence that rests its case in the wisdom of God. Job no longer needed to know. It was enough that a wise and omnipotent God was in control of all that was happening. You see, God never told Job why he was suffering. There is no explanation. On the other hand, a thoughtful consideration of God’s wonderful wisdom, power and providential concern with regard to all that He has created put Job at ease concerning his own situation. Things were not out of control. He could trust God to make sense out of nonsense even if he didn’t understand.
Now that’s a wonderful place to be—in the capable hands of an allwise all-knowing God. It’s simply a matter of humbling ourselves in the presence of God and confessing our absolute and unwavering trust in His goodness. The surprise here is in the discovery that we don’t need to know the answer to “Why?”—we only need to know “WHO!” We may not know the purpose of our suffering, but we are confident that there is design and meaning in everything God does. So we trust God with our life—even in death.
When You Do Know Who
Bill understands these things. He is confident in God’s goodness and he is at peace with the consequences of his illness. Quite frankly, nothing in his situation makes sense. He is one of the most godly men I have known. He is in the prime of his productive years as a minister of the Gospel, and serves the Lord with selfless devotion. Yet he has been struck down by a crippling tumor and is slowly succumbing to the ravages of a vicious cancer. Unless God intervenes, he will soon see the Lord. But he will tell you “It’s OK. God’s in control—He knows what He’s doing—it’s OK.” For you see, the ultimate question for him is not “Why” — but “WHO”. His trust is in the Lord—for life or for death. ■